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May 2014

I have been remiss on my blog (High Heels To Orthopedic Shoes), but will be adding to it often in the future! I guess, I have been writing a lot of "stuff" on Facebook, and have neglected my blog! I have been really busy in Real Estate, but now things have quieted down and I have more time......I still have lots to say! :-)

Mother's Day


Yesterday was Mother’s Day, and as far as I'm concerned, one of my favorite days of the year! I have so many different memories, thru the years! Some sad but mostly happy.  This is probably going to be a bit disjointed because I have so many conflicting thoughts and memories about Mother’s Day!

I adored my Mom and loved doing something special for her! Since I usually had no money, my gifts were in the guise of chores! Cleaning the attic, planting flowers etc. usually the cards were homemade.  My Dad traveled a lot in his work, and when he was home, he was a huge presence.  When he was nice, he was really, really nice, but his quick temper, and booming voice totally intimidated my sweet Mom. She became a closet alcoholic ......that is a whole other sad story.  My Mom was the sweetest person I ever knew.  I never heard her say a bad word about anyone. So even though she died at age 59 of an aneurysm, I remember every detail about her, and definitely I think of her every Mother's Day!

My first memory of being a Mom, and celebrating Mother’s Day was when I was 8 months pregnant with my first baby Laurie!  I was eight months pregnant, living in a "hellhole" in Youngstown, Ohio. Another story!  My husband John bought me a chair to sit in the "yard" (I use that term loosely) the chair cost all of $4.00. I was so excited, because I could escape the hot, hideous place we lived in on a nice day and sit outside. His mother went ballistic; turns out she was mentally unbalanced. Anyway, she said he should not have done that because I was not a mother!! Technically, I wasn't, I guess, but I felt special. We did get his mother something. What do you think? Did you feel like you were a Mom when you were pregnant with your first child? Let me know!

Anyway, on with the Mother's Day memories!  When my sons were little and probably most of the years to follow, I received darling notes, promising not to argue, to do their chores etc. I totally treasured them! They were so loving and it was then I decided Mother’s Day was a favorite day for me! Sometimes they would slip a homemade menu under the door with little boxes to mark my choices, very cute. I still have some of those little notes.

Being in real estate, sometimes my clients didn't look upon Mother’s Day as the hallowed event that I did!   Unfortunately, I had to work a few times on "my special day"! The last time, in the early 80's, I worked on Mother’s Day and it was quite an event for me. I was dressed in a bright red business suit and stockings and high heels!  I was showing a little 5 acre ranchette property in San Jose. I got out of my car on the property and a huge, peacock attacked me......scared the heck out of me! They may be beautiful birds but beware, they are mean!!! My stockings got all torn, and my legs scratched.  The owner came out of his home and after scaring the peacock away, commented: "I guess he didn’t like red". No kidding!  I went on to show the house then we climbed a hill in back, looking at the view. I saw the horses grazing, but didn't pay attention. As I started down the hill, one of the horses came up behind me and gave me a huge nudge and I proceeded to roll down the hill, wrecking my suit, shoes and pride! I arrived home with torn stockings, covered in mud and a ruined red suit and heels. I changed, had a glass of wine, and proclaimed, I will never work again on Mother's Day.......and I never did!

So, Mother’s Day was always important to me!  I am a sucker for sentimental notes and cards! Where I am conflicted, is when your children get married, in my case sons, and you have brought  them up right,  their first responsibility is to join with the kids and provide a wonderful special day for their wives. I totally understand, but I hate giving up that #1 spot of Mom and getting all the attention of "the day" itself!  Oh, I get the day before or after, but I guess I am just spoiled! They send flowers and goodies and cards.......but I miss the hugs! I know they love me, but "once a Mom, always a Mom", and we all need big hugs!

This Mother’s Day my one son had been out of town so he spent Mother's Day with his family. He showered me with extraordinary flowers & strawberries. My other son, made a drive he detests, on Saturday and took Jim & I to lunch! He also gave me a gorgeous pink Hydrangea plant that I can later plant in my “meditation garden”, but the card meant the most! I hadn't seen him since Christmas, so it was wonderful! The hug was the best! I love those boys more than life itself! My Jimmy gave me a beautiful gold necklace, with a diamond encrusted "K", a wonderful card, and took me out for a scrumptious dinner to the new Black Angus that just opened here. I have to say, I was so touched when I received a darling card to "Nana" from Jim's family, signed by all of them, and it meant the world to me. Okay.....I'm a spoiled brat!  :-)

I am attaching an article about the women who wrote to Congress to get Mother’s Day to be an official Holiday!  It is interesting, she got very angry when Mother’s Day was taken over and commercialized so much, and tried to get it all rescinded! She also felt a handwritten letter should suffice, and in some way that is a lovely thought, but in our tech driven world that will not suffice I would rather have a beautiful special card then an Email or text, that's for sure! 

What are your thoughts on Mother’s Day? Is it special to you?

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The founder of Mother's Day wouldn't have wanted you to buy those flowers for mom. Or that card. Or those chocolates. In all likelihood, she wouldn't have wanted you to celebrate the holiday at all.

The fact that we will collectively spend nearly $20 billion on moms this year probably would have caused Anna Jarvis, the founder of Mother's Day, to throw her lunch on the floor like she reportedly did in the early 1900s, when she found out that a department store in Philadelphia was offering a Mother's Day special, according to Mental Floss.

Jarvis -- a West Virginia woman who didn't even have children of her own, according to History.com -- came up with the idea for a Mother's Day holiday, organizing the first celebration at a Methodist church in 1908. Annoyed that most American holidays were dedicated to honoring male achievements, Jarvis started a letter-writing campaign to make it a national holiday, involving wearing a white carnation, visiting your mother and maybe going to church.

Her campaign worked, but not in the way she hoped: She never wanted Mother's Day to be the commercial holiday it quickly came to be. (Although maybe she should have thought twice about getting financing for the first celebration from the owner of Wanamaker's, a major department store at the time.)

Soon after Congress made Mother's Day an official holiday in 1914, Jarvis was actively campaigning against it, leveling harsh criticism against florists, candy makers, greeting-card companies and anyone else looking to make a buck off the holiday.

A 1924 story published in the Miami Daily News and Metropolis detailed Jarvis's distaste for what Mother's Day had become. It pretty much comes down to this:

  • Consumerism stinks.

"Commercialization of Mother's Day is growing every year," says she. "Since the movement has spread to all parts of the world, many things have tried to attach themselves because of its success."

  • Florists are the worst.

"The red carnation has no connection with Mother's Day. Yet florists have spread the idea that it should be worn for mother who has passed away. This has boosted the sale of red carnations."

  1. Candy makers are also the worst.

"Confectioners put a white ribbon on a box of candy and advance the price just because it's Mother's Day," she charges. "There is no connection between candy and this day. It is pure commercialization."

  • Greeting card makers are terrible (as are lazy kids who just send pre-written cards):

"The sending of a wire is not sufficient. Write a letter to your mother. No person is too busy to do this. Any mother would rather have a line of the worst scribble from her son or daughter than any fancy greeting card or telegram."

So there you have it.  Straight from the founder of Mother's Day herself.

Source:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/08/anna-jarvis-mothers-day_n_5282952.html?icid=maing-grid7%7Chtmlws-main-bb%7Cdl18%7Csec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D474695

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Karen | Reply 17.05.2014 09.23

Hi Yudi, I totally agree with you! I have always loved Mothers Day, except when the horse pushed me down the hill!!! 😃😃😃

Yudi Baker | Reply 15.05.2014 11.39

I love Mothers day! :) I like to be spoiled and appreciated, but I really really like being able to have a day where the family does what I do every day for me!

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